surrender

Sophia's Debut Article on Elephant Journal

After my toxic relationship this year, I almost gave up. I poured my raw soul into what I called The Last Personal Ad I'll Ever Write. Now an international journal has picked it up. 

I hope it helps you honor your desire to see your dreams come true. CLICK BELOW TO READ:

No More Nice Girl. Be Your Crazy Self.

After all this time, after 3 feminist movements that did more harm than good for dating (don't stone me feminazis, I was a Women's Studies major too), after all the vote-winning, doctorate-earning, business-owning and in-leaning, women are still dissatisfied, chasing after men, and wondering why they're single.

I'll tell you why.

Because you're stuck on being nice. Yes. STILL.

What Surrender Really Looks Like

Are you ready to sit with pain in your heart and not a single assurance that you still have a relationship - without losing hope?

Are you willing to surrender every shred of your ego in the name of love?

Are you ready to hurt so bad, you wonder who you are, to feel so lost you cry every day, to show up broken and realize you're actually strong?

The answer is No.

How Surrendering Gave Me Everything I Ever Wanted

No, I'm not one of those Independent Women who opens my own doors to a Beyonce soundtrack. I've always been a relationship girl: my goal in life to meet and marry my soulmate.

Instead, I had one turbulent failed relationship after another. I'm talking pan-throwing, wall-punching, labia-tearing (don't ask) turbulent.