Dating

Why Coaches Give the Worst Dating and Breakup Advice

So I'm a coach - and I have completely stopped going to life coaches to talk about my dating or relationship life. 

In this video I give three real life examples of how life, biz and spiritual coaches give horrible dating and breakup advice - and who gives better advice!

Also catch a glimpse of the guy who has Sophia's heart! 

Make sure you follow me on Periscope to catch my broadcasts LIVE - and ask questions!

Dating Myths Busted Podcast: You Need To Be Happy Alone Before You Can Be In a Relationship

We're back with another dating myth busted - this time as a podcast! This myth is like a rap lyric: sounds good to music but makes zero sense. HAVE A LISTEN:

Hint: You can click on the bottom gray soundwave bars (below the line) to leave a comment at that particular place in the recording. TRY IT! And let me know what you think about this topic.

Sick of the myths that coaches perpetuate? Ready for something different? Get Sophia's Starseed Shamanizing HERE!

Men Stepping Up & Women Not Putting Up

I'm touring the best coaches from around the world and bringing them to you LIVE on #nomad2015!

You work nonstop on your self-development, you read all the personal growth books and take those courses. But you have trouble finding men who can step up in the same way. WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT IT?

Energy Healer and Coach Sophia Chang invites special guest Love Coach Trenia Parham for a Periscope of real talk and tips.

Are you sick of putting up and want to know what your next steps are? Book an INTRO SESSION HERE!

Love Bombing and Crack Candy: How To Tell If You're With An Unavailable Man

In this Periscope replay: spiritual coaches Cheryl and Sophia brunch talk SPECIFIC things to watch out for when dating someone who comes on strong, then pulls a 180.

Emotional whiplash isn't fun - here are some red flags to keep your heart from being pulled like a puppet!

For more support: www.sexlovestory.com

Follow Sophia on Twitter & Periscope: @thesophiachang
Cheryl: @SoulfulInterior

Is it normal for men to pull away?

NO.

It's called love bombing, it's hurtful and it's not okay. Here are ways to spot it before it pulls the rug out from under you.

Need to heal from a love bomb? Want to get off crack candy? Book an INTRO SESSION HERE!

Sophia's Dating Myths Busted: LIVE on Periscope!

Calling all refugees from dating apocalypse! Give me your myths, weary and outdated, and I'll bust them live on Periscope - often with a fun guest! @thesophiachang

© 2015 Sophia Chang Photo by Megan Pangan

© 2015 Sophia Chang Photo by Megan Pangan

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5 Sex & Love Things to Try During Venus Retrograde

Because the Universe loves us soooooo much, Venus is in retrograde right now until September 6, 2015. Before you panic for a week like I did, here are 5 things to try in your romance life. Like birth control, pick the one that fits:

for singles:

1) CELIBACY

I hate this one as much as you do. Venus is in Leo too, so if you're feeling it then you're out attracting all sorts of mates with your siren call, you sexy mother. But trust me on this one - you want to think twice before you romp, particularly from late August until the end of retrograde on September 6. 

2) YOUR EX

This is usually as palatable as a wart on your face, but if it was truly the best relationship of your life, you've both grown as people, and/or it's always just been a case of inauspicious timing - now is the rare moment I'll suggest you give it a try.

possibly my favorite quote ever

possibly my favorite quote ever

3) NOT GOING BACK TO YOUR EX

If your on-and-off doesn't fall under one or ALL of the above 3 criteria, let it go honey. It may be hard because old flames tend to prance back into your life during retrogrades, but get yourself some Love Raid and spray those pests away.

 

for couples:

4) STAYING TOGETHER

But only if you take an honest look at the issues. They won't be hard to see right now - what normally doesn't bug you may annoy you more than ants in your fighter suit (sorry just saw Ant-Man). This period of time is a great opportunity to excavate once and for all.

for everyone:

5) A RELATIONSHIP OF ONE

The most important thing to do during Venus Rx is focus on yourself. You can never go wrong by turning inward during a retrograde. Take this opportunity to reconnect to your inner compass.

Has it been clouded over by worldly voices? Are you feeling confused or torn?

Don't rush into external action or answers right now. Instead, take all that love mojo you've got and lavish it on yourself.

Need more personalized help? Grab a Venus Astrology + Oracle Reading - ON SALE now:

Breaking Up is Hard To Do…3 Tips from The Dating Trenches

I share this story with all of you who are going through a breakup, have gone through a breakup or have a friend who’s trying her best to make it through Valentines’ Day without gaining twenty pounds.

Put bluntly, breaking up is hard to do.

And it’s especially hard if the relationship ends in the first three to six months.

I’d like to share 3 tips from the dating trenches to help you through heart-ache and to understand why the pain can feel more excruciating at three months in than at three years

Women DO Love Assholes - But Not for Why You Think

Women DO Love Assholes - But Not for Why You Think

This is for the ladies who love the bad boys.

Who've stayed too long with unavailable men because the sex was damn good. (Hand raise.)

And yes, fellas who can't get away from crazy chicks, you're included too.

I want you to know:

You're on to something.

What We Need to Learn From Douchebags

No More Nice Girl. Be Your Crazy Self.

After all this time, after 3 feminist movements that did more harm than good for dating (don't stone me feminazis, I was a Women's Studies major too), after all the vote-winning, doctorate-earning, business-owning and in-leaning, women are still dissatisfied, chasing after men, and wondering why they're single.

I'll tell you why.

Because you're stuck on being nice. Yes. STILL.

Your Obsession with Feeling Good Is Keeping You From A Real Relationship

Everyone watches Oprah, does yoga-hip-hop (#realthing) and Instagrams inspirational quotes. They're told they no longer have to feel shitty. Everyone has a chance to quit their jobs, divorce their spouses, fuck who they want, and live their dreams. DOWN WITH THE OLD!

But this is only the first stage.

Following good feelings is only ONE aspect of the diamond we call soul transformation.

Unfortunately, it's the shiniest one. And now modern culture is stuck on it.

"Mohawk Preferred": How to REALLY Make a Dream Guy List

Be very careful what you put on your dream guy list. Here's why:

IT REALLY WORKS.

Do's & Don't's

DON'T: Include physical characteristics

I don't mean "athletic "– or it's better re frame: healthy/takes care of his body– that's a lifestyle and character trait. Physical characteristics mean eye color, hairstyle, clothing, body type and similar externals.

INSTEAD: Focus on character and values