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The Intimacy of Heartbreak

Photo by Megan Pangan

Photo by Megan Pangan

Written exactly one year ago on my Facebook page:

Sorrow is the quickest way to bring you to your knees, so that you may see yourself mirrored in the river more closely.

It's like relationships are the crucible, breakups are the awakening, and the grief that follows is your reflection shone back to you.

Welcome the intimacy that pain brings, and the grace.

Why Coaches Give the Worst Dating and Breakup Advice

So I'm a coach - and I have completely stopped going to life coaches to talk about my dating or relationship life. 

In this video I give three real life examples of how life, biz and spiritual coaches give horrible dating and breakup advice - and who gives better advice!

Also catch a glimpse of the guy who has Sophia's heart! 

Make sure you follow me on Periscope to catch my broadcasts LIVE - and ask questions!

5 Sex & Love Things to Try During Venus Retrograde

Because the Universe loves us soooooo much, Venus is in retrograde right now until September 6, 2015. Before you panic for a week like I did, here are 5 things to try in your romance life. Like birth control, pick the one that fits:

for singles:

1) CELIBACY

I hate this one as much as you do. Venus is in Leo too, so if you're feeling it then you're out attracting all sorts of mates with your siren call, you sexy mother. But trust me on this one - you want to think twice before you romp, particularly from late August until the end of retrograde on September 6. 

2) YOUR EX

This is usually as palatable as a wart on your face, but if it was truly the best relationship of your life, you've both grown as people, and/or it's always just been a case of inauspicious timing - now is the rare moment I'll suggest you give it a try.

possibly my favorite quote ever

possibly my favorite quote ever

3) NOT GOING BACK TO YOUR EX

If your on-and-off doesn't fall under one or ALL of the above 3 criteria, let it go honey. It may be hard because old flames tend to prance back into your life during retrogrades, but get yourself some Love Raid and spray those pests away.

 

for couples:

4) STAYING TOGETHER

But only if you take an honest look at the issues. They won't be hard to see right now - what normally doesn't bug you may annoy you more than ants in your fighter suit (sorry just saw Ant-Man). This period of time is a great opportunity to excavate once and for all.

for everyone:

5) A RELATIONSHIP OF ONE

The most important thing to do during Venus Rx is focus on yourself. You can never go wrong by turning inward during a retrograde. Take this opportunity to reconnect to your inner compass.

Has it been clouded over by worldly voices? Are you feeling confused or torn?

Don't rush into external action or answers right now. Instead, take all that love mojo you've got and lavish it on yourself.

Need more personalized help? Grab a Venus Astrology + Oracle Reading - ON SALE now:

Breaking Up is Hard To Do…3 Tips from The Dating Trenches

I share this story with all of you who are going through a breakup, have gone through a breakup or have a friend who’s trying her best to make it through Valentines’ Day without gaining twenty pounds.

Put bluntly, breaking up is hard to do.

And it’s especially hard if the relationship ends in the first three to six months.

I’d like to share 3 tips from the dating trenches to help you through heart-ache and to understand why the pain can feel more excruciating at three months in than at three years

Sophia's Debut Article on Elephant Journal

After my toxic relationship this year, I almost gave up. I poured my raw soul into what I called The Last Personal Ad I'll Ever Write. Now an international journal has picked it up. 

I hope it helps you honor your desire to see your dreams come true. CLICK BELOW TO READ:

Found Your Soulmate? Welcome to Hell

Let's get something clear: you have more than one soulmate.

And this person's going to wreck you.

Seriously, they're going to ruin life as you know it and destroy everything you thought you were.

And guess what?

You asked them to do it.

Okay, not you right now in this body with your skinny jeans and addiction to Beard Papa cream puffs.

The Spirit You up in the shiny lights place that's keeping track of your karma and having full-body orgasms all day long (plead the 5th on how I know that.)